Parents biggest worries about their kids

Does Anxiety paralyse both Parent and child?

Psychologists say -It’s natural for parents to worry, but so many parents do not choose to understand the impact of anxiety on the children and on themselves — This is an unrealistic truth. Isn’t it a fact that all parents worry about their kids? Are they healthy, Will they always be happy? Are they comfortable in school or otherwise? But when your child slowly and gradually learns to think differently, your worries may multiply.

You may think and come to a conclusion that imposing your ways can only help your child. Or you may be anxious a lot many times thinking about a child’s learning struggles and it can definitely lead you both to a massive confusion. It’s not unnatural to have these ongoing thoughts, but learning how to handle and manage your worries about your child is very important and a tough call for a Parent. These productive tips can help you manage your issues.

Child’s Future is in his Present moment — (Please understand)

Why are you worried about your child’s future? I can give an example when kids have issues in functioning, parents often get baffled that they won’t be able to deal with their child’s future. You might keep thinking that your child won’t be able to make it in the future or that your child might not be successful in developing the social skills so as to have good relationships with people around. Let’s rather Focus on what you can do now. It’s absolutely futile to think that if your child is 7 years old, what will happen 10 years down the line. I would suggest you concentrate on how you can best address your child’s needs now. In doing so you will incrementally build a foundation for your child’s future.

Are you Instilling Self-Esteem in your child’s personality?

When kids learn to think independently, new tasks will have an impact on their personality, so it’s extremely important to make sure that self-esteem is tied to your kid’s value system so that it helps them to feel capable during the process of growth. If your child has specific learning challenges just support them but let them resolve it all by themselves. Researchers say to the Parents that tell kids-Keep your praise specific — “I saw how working hard for the tests. Way to go!”. Teach kids to self-advocate to feel more confident.

Do you let him grow independently?

Perhaps you are anxious that your child will find school too difficult to manage. Or that he will struggle in class because of new learning challenges and so on. And now when children are studying from home you might be worrying that they must not be attending the classes rather would be playing games on the phone….so your worries are quite creative and endless but it’s not reality always. Develop a solid relationship with your child’s school, Teachers, Principal, Tuition teacher and his friends. Having a good relationship will open up the lines of communication.Sit and have an open dialogue conversation with your child, check in regularly about how he/she feels and try to address their problems as well.

Do you have Ability to Help your child?

As a Parent, I understand that you are not always sure what methods to be used to help your child be comfortable with specific learning /thinking struggles. You might worry that if you cannot fix or resolve the issue, you as a Parent would be unsuccessful in helping/supporting your child. But, remember You need not to do it all alone. Raising a child who learns or thinks differently can feel isolated but there are Expert counsellors, people, institutions you can turn to if you are seeking for help. As a Parent, I can guide the Parents to an online portal Azotus (www.azotus.in) which is into counselling kids who are a bit different with their behaviours. The Expert counselling sessions at Azotus not only deals with the child’s behavioural issues but also counsels the Parents and discuss things with them and together they reach a solution.Consider joining the Azotus community and take tips and suggestions from other parents as well.

Let’s Teach our kids real risks and facts.

A research shows -”For instance, the concern you have that your child will be abducted by a stranger is an unknown fear. Of the 800,000+ missing children under the age of 18, only an estimated 115 children were the victims of “stereotypical” kidnapping, that is by a total stranger or acquaintance. It’s really important thereby to arm children with proper knowledge and that they need to protect themselves rather than feeling uncomfortable and creating fear. Awareness is the one solution in protecting all children against abduction.

As a Parent, I can suggest that restricting your child is always not a good idea, but to engage your children with the best of activities underlined with creativity would teach them the freedom to the anxiety of academics via learning. It would immensely develop their cognitive skills and help their brain develop to the ultimate possibility. Azotus(www.azotus.in) not only through their interactive/activity-based worksheets designed by Educators help your child learn the concepts in a fun way but also help them to enhance their brain with certain exceptional techniques used for learning. And as a Parent, I can say that if you are capable of channelising their life in a positive way it can prove to be a blessing for them.

Written by:-

Priyanka Ghosh

(Transformational Coach)